Aubrey Pink, LMFT

Why does everything seem to take me so much more effort than other people?

I can hold things together for a while, but eventually I burn out.

I’ve spent so much time trying to fit expectations that I’m not even sure what I actually need anymore.

I feel like I’m constantly compensating for something I can’t fully explain.

Am I Neurodivergent?

Neurodivergent people are managing more than what others can see. Many people describe feeling as though they are always “on,” constantly monitoring themselves, trying to keep up, or just plain falling behind. You might seem successful by external metrics and be falling apart internally at the same time. Or you may have hit a wall—the appearance of success is fading too.

It might have taken years to finally admit that life feels harder for you than it does for other people. It’s liberating to consider that you might have ADHD or autism, an explanation for that long-standing sensation you couldn’t name. There can be relief in beginning to understand yourself differently—but inevitably grief, confusion, anger, or self-doubt follow.

How much effort has gone unseen over the years? It’s been a lifetime of feeling misunderstood, criticized, or chronically “not quite right” in environments that did not recognize what you need or how you function. You might want someone to talk to who understands what comes next.

How We Work

In our work together, we begin by understanding your experience as it actually exists—not how you think you “should” function, and not pressure to force yourself into ways of living that feel unsustainable.

We look at patterns over time: what drains you, what overwhelms you, what helps you feel more regulated and connected, and how you have learned to adapt to environments that may not have fit you well.

Rather than approaching neurodivergence as something to eliminate, the work becomes about developing greater self-understanding, flexibility, and ways of living that feel more workable and less depleting.

My Approach

I am relational, careful, and depth-oriented.

I pay close attention not only to symptoms or behaviors, but to your internal experience and the ways you have learned to navigate the world over time. We work collaboratively and at a pace that feels manageable, with an emphasis on understanding rather than judgment or correction.

I also see you as a whole person – much more than a diagnosis of ADHD or autism. We examine your childhood experiences of attunement and misattunement and connect patterns in your current relationships to the templates you were handed as a kid.

The goal is not to become a different person. It is to feel less overwhelmed, less disconnected from yourself, more able to move through life in a way that feels sustainable and authentic to who you are, and in relationships that are more deeply satisfying and enriching.